When people get married and take their vows, "For better or worse, through sickness and in health, etc. etc," it may seem like just some words you say on a day you dress up in front of people just to at the end of the day say "I'se married now". Millions of people have said those words or something like those words for centuries. Who knows what it truly means until you are actually married and really realize that those words were really where the rubber hits the road.
One thing I can vividly remember is the day my husband and I had our wedding in my hometown. We had already had a small intimate ceremony on 8/8/08, but when we had the ceremony with the guests and the friends one thing I will never forget is how my husband looked into my eyes and said his vows (again). We had already been married and living together for sometime in NYC. We had gone through the preliminary changes of what it was to merge together as one so rapidly and that was challenging enough.... But, when he looked into my eyes I can not even express the way that it permeated me to the point where I could feel his love for me down into my spirit and my soul. It was beyond anything I had ever felt before. I think many people must feel that they have a special love and that their relationship is rare but I know I am definitely one of those people. It is such an incredible experience to be married and when you go through the turbulence, and trials of life together, that is when the true testimony happens. It is a moment when you have to know if you have a love that is so real that can stand the test of time and the trials and obstacles life throws your way.
Some months ago a song came out called 1+1. I am sure a lot of people think I am all about Beyonce as much as I post her on this blog, but I can't help it if the girls songs are on point with how I feel about things. I am sure there are other songs out there that could have the same meaning, but I digress. I remember when I first heard 1+1 on American Idol and I felt the chills go through me as she sang and expressed a love that whoever wrote the song could only know by experiencing a raw, real, and deep devotion and true testament of love.
The words of the song start off:
"If I ain't got nothin, I know that I got YOU"
and "If I ain't got something (I don't give a damn)
'Cause I got it with you
I don't know much about algebra (but I know)
One plus one equals two
And it's me and you
That's all we'll have when the world is through"
WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW~
So true. All I can truly say is that there must have been something in my life I did right to be married to a man who has loved me honestly and truly beyond my faults. When I was super fat after being pregnant, when I wasn't that cute, when I had an attitude, when I was a hot mess and just didn't feel like doing a single thing, when I wanted to put my career ahead of everything at the expense of my own health and to the detriment of my everything I held dear to me. The list goes on and on and on. Oh trust me there are times when I have been challenged to love him too, but that is what real love is. I think marriage is how you find out how much GOD truly loves us. In spite of our issues and mess he looks past our faults as see's what we need and loves us unconditionally.
You have to be grateful to know when you have a real love.
It is easy to love someone when everything is perfect and going well, but not so much when times get tough and challenges arise. Those are the times when love is needed the most, but it isn't as available.
All I know is one day I had a sleepless night and all I could do was realize and be grateful for the love I had right next to me.
I got up and just started playing songs and tears started flowing because I realized that the only thing that matters is love and it is the vows that help you realize that when they become real through the struggle of life or the inner struggle with your own self discovery or development. Then is when you can fully understand what love sincerely is and that is how you find out that nothing in this entire WORLD matters more than love.
